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Really Boring Music

by Laura Sullivan

Really Boring Music

It was a Tuesday morning and as usual I was chauffeuring my eight-year daughter.  Dance class, swim team, guitar lessons, always somewhere. This time was a school field trip and we were together in the car with two other girls from her class. 

The three girls were in their own world in the back seat. I had become like an adult in an episode of Charlie Brown. Not seen, and if I spoke my voice was an unintelligible “wah, wah, wah” sound

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I listened with only part of my brain as the girls chattered on about their favorite artists – Katie Perry, Selena Gomez, Taylor Swift. This music has become pretty familiar to me since my daughter developed a taste for pop culture.

One of the little girls asked my daughter “Who is your favorite artist?” and my ears perked up. I’m always interested to know these powerful nuggets of information about her, which can hopefully be used for future moments of connection. Perhaps giving me a chance to elevate above the adult character from Charlie Brown.

Maintaining the parent/child connection seemed such an easy concept before I became a mommy.  So did just about everything about parenting. Just when I feel “I have this nailed” she grows and changes and I start all over again figuring out how to find her in her world at her new age and stage.

It all started when she was a colicky baby. One of my first purchases as a parent was a full length album of white noise off of iTunes. I paid 9 bucks for that to see if it might help me soothe her after many hours of crying for what felt like weeks on end. The neighbors next door must have wondered if we had left the TV on non-channel cranked to full volume for weeks on end. Talk about desperation.

As a toddler it was about getting down on the floor with her and really playing and not being so hung up on the house being in perfect order… well more like accepting that organized chaos was going to be as good as it gets for pretty much forever.

 

Then came the days of the 5s and 6s. I needed to learn to climb with her and to play hide and seek and tag and just let go and get out of my head and into the present moment. And now that she is an almost-pre-teen, I’m learning to let her be more of a big girl and to get into the new things she is interested in and to be interested in them too. Like pop music.

Maybe for many parents this stuff is all easy peasy mac and cheesey. But for me, I need to remind myself to make it a priority. But, I want to. It took me a long time to become a parent, and it wasn’t an easy road getting there. Regardless, probably all parents feel the same way. Our connection is super precious and I want to honor it always, even when it takes me out of my comfort zone, which is often enough.

Anyway, I digress… the burning cultural question… well burning for an eight year old - had been asked of my daughter . “Who is your favorite artist?” And I listened with heightened interest.

Her reply…

“Well… it’s actually my mom….. Even though her music is really boring.”

I burst out laughing, silently on the inside. By this point, I had realized that losing myself in the car upholstery as the adult from Charlie Brown was a great cover for moments like these when there is the opportunity to catch these gems in the kid’s conversation without them thinking there is a mommy spy in their company.

Pulling off the 101 Freeway to dry my eyes only made us a few minutes late to the Marine Science Institute where the kids class was gathering for their field trip.

It took me a few minutes to understand my tears. They were partially from laughter, but from something else too. Somehow in the eyes of my daughter I had managed the title of “favorite artist” and despite that my music to her is “boring” I was thrilled to be given this distinction. Surely I could never live up to Katie Perrian, Taylor Swiftian, Selena Gomezian coolness, but that she would put me in the camp of “favorite” filled me with tremendous love and gratitude. And that she would name me as such in the presence of her peers, in their almost-pre-teen awkward fragile wonderfulness. It was one of my proudest moments, and was the true reason behind my waterworks.

That same boring music recently managed to hit the top 10 best seller list for six weeks on Billboard in New Age.

So boring or not, it will pay for her college education. At least partially….

Well, given the rising costs of college, very very partially.

Okay. Looks like I better make a whole lot more of that boring music.




Laura Sullivan
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19 Responses

Jeff Chapman
Jeff Chapman

Thanks for sharing, Laura! Parenting is difficult at best, but it’s those little moments that make it all worth it. :-)

Dan Ticson
Dan Ticson

You combine heart, soul and mind like no other, and the music we hear is like no other. Thank you for the moments of peace and tranquility in a restless world.

Laura Sullivan
Laura Sullivan

Awesome, D. Edward, I really appreciate you!! xoxo

Laura Sullivan
Laura Sullivan

Thank you so much, Jeff! You are amazing! :-)

Marie T.
Marie T.

What a beautiful story Laura, and thank you for sharing it with us! When we think our children aren’t listening or paying attention to us parents, they prove us wrong and make us so proud! Enjoy this ride!

Laura Sullivan
Laura Sullivan

Oh my goodness, I’m so completely touched reading all your comments. Thank you, thank you!! I love you all so much. How I wish I could reply to each one of you, but my silly blog doesn’t have that feature!! I’m not using wordpress… because I’m a big dork. If anyone knows how to fix this comment feature, please lemme know. I love you guys!!

Leonard
Leonard

I loved the story. I think your greatest achievement may be your daughter and how you have great love for her.

Mike Bogle
Mike Bogle

Love the story, Laura, and the music. Please keep it coming!

Ari Ross
Ari Ross

An amazing, BEAUTIFUL story – also very well communicated :-)

Craig William Dayton
Craig William Dayton

This is a wonderful story and a precious moment to save in your heart. Your music has been “boring” me for years. :) I hope you will continue to bore me for decades to come. :) I am lucky to have found you and your music, and, of course…good ole Troupe and the “gang”.

Brent Chambers
Brent Chambers

This is an awesome story! You are as great a mom as you are a musician. Oh, and your music is never boring. Quite the opposite. Love all of your music!

Lisa Coppola
Lisa Coppola

Laura,
What a touching and well written piece! And such a great thing to actually be reaching your daughter on that level. May you and your family always be blessed. Lisa

Will Gray
Will Gray

The all-encompassing Motherly-love of your softly, sweetly phrasing, portraying your daughters upbringing, your introducing her to music, to the most gentle life that can only flourish with love’s most wondrous gift: Laura, this is so memorable as to remain a treasure forever to cherish. Thank you for reminding us with such beauty that forever remains true to our faith in one another, as only The Divine so enables the One in all, in honoring you and Eric with all else you are here to accomplish even more, for this that is heaven-on-earth, while we are here, now reminded.

Ginny
Ginny

Aw, this is a wonderful and touching story! I’m sure, however, that your daughter must have some inkling of how extraordinary her mother is, so yes you CAN be as amazing as those other ladies on the red carpet because you’re actually ON THE RED CARPET! Even if your music IS designed to make you relaxed and sleepy on purpose.

Traci Corbett
Traci Corbett

This is absolutely precious and speaks to the amazing human being and artist you are…as a musician AND a parent…I am drying my own tears as I read this and soak in the beauty of boring! You are my favorite too!!! Well, maybe besides Prince. ❤️❤️❤️

Zupe
Zupe

To be acknowledged, at that age, is quite an accomplishment. Makes winning a Grammy “easy peasy Mac-n-cheesey.”

Steven Cravis
Steven Cravis

Thank you for sharing this sweet story, Laura.

D. Edward
D. Edward

I love this!

Jeff Oster
Jeff Oster

Thank you for sharing this little slice of all too familiar reality…I am VERY proud of you!

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